Category Archives: Gay

Rob, are you gay?

In my freshman year of college I had a crush on a classmate named Rob. He was a classically cute uke-type guy. Sometimes we would bump into each other at the cafeteria and we would chat. I tried to become friends of his friends, but that wasn’t too successful and I thought that nothing was going to come of this.

At the end of the year I decided to enter the random roomate lottery for my sophomore year. Two weeks later I went to see the computer generated list and I found that Rob was going to be my roommate. Boy, was I shocked!

Summer came and went and soon I was moving in. Rob was an out-of-state student so he had already moved in when I was carying in my clothes and stuff. I was ready to have some time getting to know the guy I had a crush on for the previous year.

Things were fine for the first few weeks, but soon Rob’s habits began to get on my nerves. For example, he liked these special crackers (which taste nice) but he would nibble them like a chipmunk. Unfortunately these crackers were extra crunchy and this sound would really get on my nerves.

That aside, Rob and I still got along. We would listen in on our neighbor talking loudly on the phone. (Our neighbor was a dance major named Ernie who always was looking for a new sugar daddy.) We also would go out and see movies together, have dinner and share gossip, but this didn’t absolve Rob from one of his most annoying qualities, his love of Bette Midler and Judy Garland. I don’t mind them, and honestly I do have some of their music, but I don’t listen to the Beaches soundtrack every weekend.

I still could not figure out everything about Rob. Sure, he liked Beaches, but he had a photo of a really beautiful girl on his desk who is his “ex”. Sure he only had female friends, but he was friends with me. Sure he liked sports, but he was the mascot on the university cheer leading team. Everything added up to a normal gay male, but I wanted confirmation.

I would occasionally ask him about a girlfriend, and he would point to the photo of the ex, but this is just a photo. I would ask if he had a crush on any of his friends, but he always said no. Enough was enough, I was tired of waiting and finally decided to just ask him straight out, “Rob, are you gay?”

He was quiet for a while, and he said no. I wasn’t really heartbroken, just confused. This can’t be, he is so queer! I wasn’t convinced, so every night before I went to bed I would ask him, and he always said no. This went on for the entire year, and if anything he was consistent in his responce.

So it was the end of another year, and I decided that I was tired of roommates and wanted a single room. Sure living was Rob in the beginning was nice, but I got to learn all his bad habits and he became less and less attractive over time. It was time to live alone and move on.

A few years later I graduated. I found a boyfriend in LA and a job in the Bay Area and life went on. One summer we went back to LA to visit my boyfriend’s family and we swung by WEHO. We went to a few clubs and then to Don’t Panic which sells t-shirts that say “I’m not gay, but my boyfriend is” and surprise-surprise, guess who was working there? Rob…

So we said hi and I introduced him to my boyfriend. We talked for a while to catch up and talk about our careers. The whole time we were avoiding the one question, why was Rob working in a gay t-shirt shop in WEHO. I had to ask it, it was driving me crazy and I finally felt that I caught him in his lie so I had to ask again… “Rob, are you gay?”

He was quiet again and my boyfriend and I were staring at him waiting for him to respond. Rob was looking very nervous and then he gave the following response, “No, but don’t tell my manager. He thinks I am!”


Lance Bass is GAY!

Staring Goldfish
Originally uploaded by chengyee.

A friend just sent me an email this morning telling me that Lance Bass came out of the closet.  Although this isn’t the biggest shock, I am dissapointed he didn’t tell people earlier, like when he was famous.

You can read the “exclusive” story in the online version of People Magazine.

I showed the news article to Steven this morning and he said “who is that”.  I replied “He is one of the singers in N-Sync!”  Steven then replied, “Oh, he is the guy who has eyes like a goldfish.”

I never thought of Lance like that till he pointed it out!

How to get married in Vancouver – Finding a Jeweler

When Steven and I arrived in Vancouver we had a problem. We were getting married in 3 days and we didn’t have wedding rings. Why didn’t we get them in Taiwan? Well I have sausage fingers like my grandfather and unfortunately the fingers of the average asian male are under size 10.

We decided to spend the entire day Saturday looking for a quality jeweler in town. We found a few places that sold Jewlry online, but we were worried that they would be closed or wouldn’t be able to do a rushed order. Fortunately we found Jones the Jewler near our hotel, and they were open and very nice and very accomidating. They helped us pick matching bands, delivered on time and provided top notch service. We were in and out of the store in less than an hour and had the entire afternoon to go sightseeing (we went to Stanley Park).

If you are in the Vancouver area and you are looking for a high quality jeweler that can provide gold, platnium, silver, steel bands, engagement rings and custom designs, then I suggest you check out Jones the Jewler.

How to get married in Vancouver – Finding a Marriage Commissioner

So you are ready to tie the knot in Vancouver, but you need to find someone to conduct your ceremony.  In Canada you can have either a civil marriage conducted by a licensed Marriage Commissioner or you can have a religious wedding.  We had a civil wedding, so I will provide some insight on that first.

The best way to find someone is by word of mouth.  Our commissioner was Ann Moore, and I couldn’t think of a more caring individual.  Steven was very nervous due to language issues, and she helped us through the ceremony.   You can browse the entire list of marriage commissioners if Ann is unavailable.

Once you have contacted the commissioner you should ask about the following information:

  • Dates and availability
  • Fees
  • Location
  • Number of guests
  • Clothing
  • The ceremony (sample ceremony)

We had a very simple ceremony with only two friends attending (the minimum required) in a small house wearing casual attire.

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How to get married in Vancouver – Getting the Marriage License

Once you have decided to get married in Vancouver, one member of the couple getting married needs to apply for a Marriage License with a Marriage License Issuer.  The marriage license is valid for up to three months from the date issued and costs $100 CDN dollars (cash).

When we applied for the marriage certificate, we supplied the following information for each person:

  • Passport
  • Full legal name
  • Marriage status
  • Current address
  • Phone number
  • Birth date / location

Please remember to have all the information for EACH PERSON before visiting the Marriage License issuer.  You can review the PDF form used to obtain a marriage license. You can also search the database of Marriage License Issuers.

How to get married in Vancouver – Who qualifies?

Vancouver has wonderful weather, great food, affordable accomidations and they will marry anyone who qualifies for marriage.  How can you tell if you qualify?  Basically you need to meet the following requirements:

  • Currently unmarried (for 31+ days)
  • Over the age of 19

That’s it!  This means that you do not need to have any of the following:

  • No blood test
  • No citizenship requirement
  • No gender requirements

To find out more, please feel free to read the BC Vital Statistics Agency article on How to Get Married.

Why no updates?

Well, If you don’t already know, I have been very busy over the last few weeks dealing with my wedding. Yes yes, I am now officially married (according to Canada). This was a big step for the two of us. We decided ~6 months ago to finally tie the knot. It is actually very easy and I will post the information soon.